So, you think you’ve met The One? He replies to your texts, never flakes, looks into your eyes and makes you feel like a queen. Oh girl, hold your feelings! Don’t fall into the love trap just yet, first we need to make sure he is as honest, kind, and decent as he says he is.
While being an ex-con is not necessarily a red flag for a serious relationship, you have all the right to know about it. If his past is coated with a thick black layer of constant “I don’t know”s and “Why are you asking?”s, we’ve got a problem.
That’s why sometimes it’s helpful to just stop the emotional train, take a deep breath, and find out if the man you’re about to fall for is the man you think he is. Find a pen and paper, and read these 5 signs that you are dating an ex-con.
Liars are gonna lie, lie, lie! No one likes a liar, especially one that got caught on a dirty little lie. And I am not even talking about the small lies, think really serious deceptions that conceal an entire facet of his character. Those lies! If he is not 100% honest with you, you’d better do a quick investigation of your own. Make sure you are not being mislead, and if his record is clean, you still need to have the talk about honesty.
For now, his past record on lies tells you to keep your eyes wide open for signs that he may have a criminal past.
… and does not explain why. We all know those guys that have had short-term amnesia during certain periods of their lives. Can’t remember, can’t prove anything, don’t know!
Well, it’s not good enough for us! Before you commit to this guy, you need to be certain that you are ok with his past. You may still choose to be with him, but you have to make an informed decision.
No one googles “money laundering schemes that work” in their leisure time, so if your boyfriend showcases exceptional knowledge in criminal studies, maybe he has the experience too.
If he is not a lawyer, a police officer, or has a BA in criminal justice, he is getting his information through other channels - his friends, family, or himself.
And remember, it may have been an innocent trick that ended badly, so hear out the whole story before making any final decisions.
Reality is never perfect and if your man is so perfect you can’t find a flaw, maybe he is not real.
Most of the time, perfect relationships are either fake or fabricated. And even if your love story is real, it simply wouldn’t hurt to double check. After all, you probably have a few doubts if you are reading this now.
Start by meeting his friends or family and spend some time with them. This will give you an idea about his background and you can ask questions to them too!
Does he make excuses that he is being treated unfairly? Does that happen every time he goes for an interview? He was probably born under a very unlucky star, or he is covering up the real reasons why he can’t get a decent job.
Ex-cons usually have a hard time getting jobs, and it may seem unfair that his interviewer knows more about your bae’s records than you do. There is a way to fix that.
Thanks to your personal laptop and the free wifi in the coffeeshop next door, you can take advantage of some of the best background check websites. Some of these websites are paid, others will give you basic information and you can purchase the rest. You can also browse the court cases, if you crave more details.
Apart from this, each state has its own Department of Corrections (DOC) and most of them offer online databases. If you don’t know which states he has lived in, a much quicker option is to head over to a website specializing in arrest and criminal records in all states.
We gave you the strategy and the tools, it’s up to you now to stand up for yourself and find out the truth. Remember that every person is different and many deserve a second chance. But if you have the slightest doubt that you are being deceived, take control of the situation and protect your feelings, as well as your social security number.
In George Orwell’s 1984, there was a device called a telescreen. Every citizen had to own one. It was always on, 24 hours a day, unless you are among one of the privileged, elite party members who could shut if off briefly. The news and propaganda were continuously delivered through the telescreen, and it operated two ways. It was also a surveillance device, and you didn’t always know when you were being observed. For example, the main character, Winston Smith was engaging in a required daily calisthenics program when the instructor on the screen suddenly called him out and exhorted him to try harder to touch his toes. In 2018 we have a version of the fictional telescreen, which we watch, and it watches us back.
Muggers are among the most desperate and violent of thieves. They are usually Addicts who have abandoned any previously held moral standards, and who badly want to get more drugs. They won’t or can’t work, have spent any savings, and nobody will loan them money. They have exhausted other options such as selling their belongings, or illegal options like selling their body, shoplifting, burglary, scams or con-jobs. There are many alternatives to get money other than direct and violent confrontation of a victim, so this is a last resort. The other option is a mugger is a thrill seeking, risk taking individual, eager for a power, control, domination encounter, and prefers to directly confront a victim, rather than doing it out of desperate necessity when other options have been exhausted. The third option is they are not intelligent enough to acquire money by other means, including illegal ones.
Burglars enter an unoccupied private or commercial property with the intent to steal items from the property. They may enter stealthily, or disregard noise discipline. They may be in and out in seconds, grabbing whatever they can get their hands on, or loiter on the property ransacking it for valuables. They may be amateurs seeking drugs, money for drugs, or items to sell or trade for drugs. They may be professionals, meaning their primary source of income is from burglaries. They seek high end electronics, original artwork, expensive jewelry, or other valuables, and have a fence or broker in stolen merchandise to move the items they steal. Some professional burglars will be seeking a specific item they have been commissioned to steal, or they will clean out a property, taking everything they can.
There is rampant stereotyping, discrimination, and prejudice in the United States directed at a certain group. This is a group of people who are perceived very badly by the media and the public. Some businesses have put up signs telling them they are unwelcome. Other places have refused to serve them. They are insulted and threatened, their families are victimized, and they are spit on, assaulted, and murdered by those who hate them. They are blamed for all of society’s wrongs. They are seen as brutal gun toting thugs, uneducated, and quick to use violence to solve conflict. The members of this group of very misunderstood individuals are police officers, sheriff’s deputies, state troopers and federal agents, collectively referred to as LEO’s (Law Enforcement Officers). They have gotten a lot of bad press lately. Below are some ways to make the men and women who have the critical task of keeping our cities, counties states, and nation a safer place.
Mental illness used to be a shameful word. If a family had a mentally ill member, their name was unmentioned, and inquires as to their well-being would be returned with oh, they are fine, they have their ups and downs. Admitting that you saw a psychiatrist would have people look at you like you were dangerous, or maybe even worse, you would be treated with pity and condescension. Some people would have a Nervous Breakdown, spend a week or two in a psychiatric unit, and the neighbors and co-workers would whisper about the in hushed tones, again a mixture of fear and pity. Fortunately we have come and long ways in how mental illness is treated, and how society sees people who are mentally ill.
Our canine, feline, avian and equine companions are beloved family members. The only differences are they have four legs, speak a different language, and tend to have more hair. They provide us with great comfort, unconditional love, and you can tell them anything with the assurance they will keep your secret. Unfortunately, there are those who do not share this love of animals. Or their love is grossly misguided or inappropriate. While recognizing people love all types of animals from hamsters to hedgehogs, this article will focus on the most common pets, dogs and cats.
When people are convicted of a crime, there are a number of sentencing possibilities. The most obvious is incarceration in a jail (generally for 364 days or less) or a prison (on year or more). If someone has already served time in a prison, they will likely reach a point where they will be considered for parole, or early release. Other people convicted of lesser crimes may be offered a period of supervision in lieu of incarceration which is probation. House arrest is an interim measure between incarceration and parole. People who have been charged but not yet sentenced may be out on bail, with conditions of release they must abide by to remain in the community while they await trial or sentencing.
A warrant is a type of order typically issued by a judge or magistrate. Types of warrants for the purpose of this article:
It can be very easy. Your child will tell you who it is if you listen to them.
Pedophiles are adults, typically men, who are sexually attracted to pre-pubescent boys and girls, typically under age 10. They are differentiated from hebephiles, who are adults sexually attracted to early-pubescent boys and girls, about ages 11 to 14. Pedophilia is one of the paraphilia’s, which are mental disorders characterized by aberrant sexual desires and behaviors. Pedophiles are mentally ill, and according to some theories, born to desire children as a deviant sexual preference. Other theories say something in their developmental years led them to pedophilia. Neither these theories, nor any others, are excuses or valid criminal defenses. Rather it is to understand them so they can be detected and Pedophiles are sexual predators from whom children must be protected.